Friday the 13th

[Lucky2]

So, how was your friday the 13th? Mine sucked big time, the woman I spent the last forty years with came home from work and she wanted to have a talk. Then she tears my world apart by telling me she's not happy, and that she's moving out. This was a shock, not only to me but to the rest of her and my family. Our daughters can't understand it, they think she's acting crazy. Her parents are very upset with her, and they can't imagine how she can throw forty years away just like that. She has a hard stressful job, she's a extra-mural nurse and there's lots of death in that job. One of her co-workers past away on wednesday, and that hit her hard. She doesn't blame me for doing anything wrong, she just says she's not happy. I don't know if this is a mid-life crisis or what, but, I do know that it sucks big time. And I don't know how to go forward from here, everything is up in the air.

Len

Edited January 15, 2017 by Lucky2

[spirithorse]

Len,

I will not pretend that I even have any idea what you are going through.

I hope everything gets better from here on out.

I know it sounds cliche in times like this but, say a few prayers and

try to communicate with your lady (Wife?) to really assess the situation.

My prayers are with you.

God Bless! Spirithorse

[wombatie]

Oh WOW what a shocker......  I too have no idea what you are going through nor what your wife is going through but may I suggest that both of you either speak to a councilor or maybe someone from your church (if you go to church)

You are in my thoughts Len.

 

Marg

[Phantom Scroller]

Len not good stuff happening but make sure you look after yourself. God Bless. Roly

[Scrolling Steve]

Hang in there Len !

[Dan]

Sorry to hear that Len. My sister walked out of two marriages then her third husband just walked out on her. People are hard to figure out. I hope things work out one way or another. Best of luck to you.

[WayneMahler]

WOW. No idea how you are feeling or dealing with this news.

I will pray for you and her and all involved. 

Maybe talk to a counselor ?

[wedo scroll]

Len so sorry to hear your news. Prayers for:

talking, listening, understanding, reconciliation.  

[dgman]

Just remember we are here for you Len. We are part of your family, and when a member is hurting, we are hurting too.

I hope things work out for you and your wife.

[jerry1939]

Len my Friend, Please remember that Time heals all wounds. IF you are not a Church going person, do yourself a favor and attend different denominations of services and pick one you like. You will be welcomed with open arms at all of them. Our Church (Catholic) has a support group that I'm sure you would find helpful.

 

If God takes you to it, God will take you through it.

 

jerry

[Lucky2]

Thanks everyone for the words of support, this was a complete shock to all of us. Both her family and mine can't understand her, or what she's doing. I've resigned myself to the fact that there's no sense in fighting with her, as I've always given her what she wants. I decided today that I will move out of the house, and she'll move back in. It will make things a whole lot easier for both of us if I did. Don't get me wrong, I'm not laying down and accepting this, it's just that I don't know what to do. I love this women with all my heart, and this is breaking it to pieces. I finally did get a chance to talk to her today, to let her know what I decided. She could do nothing but cry, and she claims that none of this is my fault. That statement really upset me, I asked her if it's not my fault, then why am I paying such a price. She had no answer to that, all she said was she doesn't know. I asked her about us going to see a councilor, she doesn't want to do that either. She says she doesn't think it would make a difference. So, I may stop posting for a while, as I don't know where I'll be living. Thanks again.

Len

[Sparkey]

So sorry to hear this Len. I will be praying for you.

[125 CSL]

From a guy who has been down that road twice,....please move back into your house. You are not the one who should upset your world. As a nurse she makes darn good money(being a nurse I know) and can afford any place in the area. Even a place close to where she works. She also has all these friends who encouraged this action. All of which I am sure live alone and would be more then happy to take in a room mate.

Edited January 16, 2017 by 125 CSL

[meflick]

Len, I have been off and not on the forum this past weekend so I am just now catching up.  I am so sorry that your world has been torn apart.  I cannot fathom the pain and the heartache that you and your family are going through.  My heart does break for you and I will pray that you can find guidance and help in dealing with all you are going through. Even if she is not willing to go to counseling, I would encourage you to find and go to one on your own for now.  You need someone to help you as you deal with the heartache you have had thrown at you from out of the blue it sounds like. Encourage her to get counseling on her own too.  Then perhaps at some point you can try counseling together. Only you can decide what is right and best for you right now but I would encourage you to not roll over and let her take anything and everything.  Maybe she needs some time away - give her that - perhaps in time she will find out that she wants to keep what she is throwing away right now.  With counseling, you will be able to better handle it and know what YOU want to do.  Prayers are being said for you and your family.  Please keep in contact here on the forum.  You have many friends here who will want to keep up with you and it will do you good to keep up here and to work with your saw!