A long time ago when I was refinishing antiques I would distress by banging with keys, or a small ball head hammer. I would then use steel wool and vinegar solution.
It takes a lot of experimenting depending on the type of wood.
There are lots of videos on this topic. Here is one https://youtu.be/JvyUkSenWK0?si=FoXQIDTz0NWmL7Ue
Here is anther that talks about distressing too. https://youtu.be/gPR-u65fH0A?si=PWeEJBQ4kSRHJz0J
There are stains too that mimic aging too.