Hmm, I think you and my husband fortunately went to the same school. The other “lesson” he tells newly engaged young men is a few simple words to learn, “yes dear.” but then also points out that on a few rare occasion, those two words can get you in trouble, usually he says when she asks does this make me look fat? For those rare occasions like that, he says the correct reply is you always look beautiful dear. May be why we have been happily married for more than 34 years.